I have always grown up believing there’s only one person that we belong with. That once we find them our lives will become more fulfilling. The problem with this, is that we’re expecting someone else to change our lives and affect our happiness. This never works. Unless you’re a fairy tale character.We are the only true hero in our tale! I believe the success to finding a partner you can be happy with for life is learning to be your own soulmate. How can you Be your own soul mate? It’s all about self-love! Once we are truly happy and accepting of ourselves we have the basic foundation for a happy relationship with another. Until then, every partner we meet will reflect our insecurities like a mirror.
So, what does it mean to be your own soul mate?
Being your own soul mate simply means to prioritize your wants and needs the way you would want any partner to do. The best plan of action is to fall in love with yourself every day. Take time to get to know who you are and what you enjoy. Try daily mantras or meditations. Go on a solo vacation. Get a fancy dinner. Receive an epic massage. Invest in talents or interests that you may have let fall by the wayside. Find activities that bring you immense joy, and do them for that reason alone. Spend time with those who value and inspire you.
We create the world we perceive around us. We control the world within us.
Our ultimate goal is to feel loved, appreciated and respected. To find this we must start with loving ourselves, appreciating what we have and respecting who we are. All the attributes that we hope to find in our partner must be found first within ourselves. No one can guarantee you a partnership of lifelong happiness. Waiting on this is putting the responsibility for your joy in someone else’s hands. You are capable of giving yourself lifelong happiness. You are also the only person who can keep yourself from it.
On top of that, how easy is it to be there for someone else when you don’t feel supported or nurtured? In any relationship, there are times one partner will need more patience, attention, and love. If you don’t have self-love in place, how will you continue to share this with them?Being as spiritually, mentally, and emotionally whole as you can is the foundation of creating the happiness you seek.
As we get older, this truth becomes more and more apparent. Those who learn it earlier tend to have lives filled with deep love, great purpose, and never-ending discovery. In order to be your best self in your relationships—whether it’s with a friend, family member, or partner—you need to FEEL your best, inside and out. Be the kind of soul mate you are hoping to find.